💸 To Tip or Not to Tip: A Guide to Gratuity for Weddings, Grad Bashes & Bar Mitzvah Blowouts

Let’s face it: planning an event is already a beast, and then someone asks, “Are you tipping the DJ?” and suddenly you’re spiraling. (It’s okay, I’ve been there.)

Whether you're saying “I do,” cheering on your graduate, or hosting a mitzvah for the books, tipping your vendors can be confusing. But don’t worry, I’m breaking it all down so you can tip with confidence (or not tip, when it’s not necessary).

💼 Not Just for Weddings Anymore

Yes, weddings are the usual suspects when it comes to vendor tipping - but these days, larger events like graduation parties, bar/bat mitzvahs, and milestone birthdays often bring in pros who deserve appreciation, too.

If you’re hiring:

• Caterers

• DJs or live bands

• Bartenders

• Photographers/videographers

• Makeup artists

• Photo booth operators

• Delivery crews (rentals, flowers, etc.)

…then tipping is something to consider.

📄 Start with the Contract

I know, I know—reading contracts isn’t the sexy part of party planning. But this is where you’ll find the truth about what’s already included.

💡 Hot Tip:

“Service charge” does NOT always mean “gratuity.” Some vendors build in administrative fees but still expect a tip. If you’re unsure? Ask. There’s zero shame in making sure.

💰 Who Gets What?

Let’s break it down (and keep it realistic):

Vendor	Standard Tip
Catering Staff	15–20% of the food & beverage total
Photographers/Videographers	$50–$100 per person
DJ or Band	$50–$200 for DJs; $25–$50 per band member
Hair & Makeup Artists	15–20% of service total
Delivery Staff	$10–$20 per person
Photo Booth Attendants	$20–$50 if they’re interactive

👀 What About Business Owners?

Traditionally, no tip needed. But if your vendor is a one-woman (or man) show who absolutely crushed it, a tip, or even just a thoughtful thank-you note, goes a long way.

🕰️ When & How to Tip

• Before the event: Prep labeled envelopes with cash or checks.

• During the event: Hand them out after services are complete (or designate someone to do it).

• After the event: Venmo/PayPal + a nice message = always classy.

🧂 Know When It’s Optional

Let’s be real—not every event requires tipping. A DIY grad party with grocery-store cupcakes and your cousin on the aux cord? Probably not a tipping situation.

But if you’ve got professionals putting in long hours, sweating the details, or saving your behind when the cooler ran out of ice? Consider tipping your MVPs.

🎤 Final Thoughts

Tipping isn’t about obligation, it’s about appreciation. So read those contracts, budget it in where needed, and don’t be afraid to show your vendors a little love when they earn it.

Need help figuring out if your event calls for tips, contracts, or caffeine? That’s what AK Events is here for. From chaos to calm, I’ve got you covered.

📩 Contact Me | 💬 Let’s chat through the fine print, so you don’t have to sweat the small stuff.